Tag: motherhood

Dear Ravi,

Do you know that today is the 24th anniversary of you announcing your presence? It was one of the strangest days of my life, but leave it to you to throw in some drama and flair. It was November 13, 2001 and I had an early morning teacher meeting. I went upstairs to my study to pick up some notes and I remember standing at the top of the stairs. I remember my vision coning in and feeling odd. The next thing I knew I was at the bottom of the stairs, in a pile of papers, with a concerned Daddy peering at me. I crawled back into bed and lay there a few minutes. I knew that I had broken some ribs because I could feel them grinding against each other. We decided that the best option was to go to the Emergency Room.

It was still early in the morning and not many people were in the ER. We got seen by a rather bored nurse. She asked it there was any chance that I could be pregnant. I said yes, and I hoped so. She took some blood and vanished. We sat there for 2 hours, no one checking on us. Eventually, the same nurse reappered and handed me my clothes. “You can go now” she said. “What?” I said. “What about my rib?”. She assured us that there was nothing that she could do about the ribs. I asked her, “Can you at least tell me if I am pregnant”. “”Oh honey, you are definitely pregnant”. Then she vanished. Poof. Shaking our heads I put my clothes back on and limped out the door, utterly confused.

We went home. I was thrilled to be pregnant, but confused about the rest. Later I got a call from United Hospital to come in to see an OB/GYN. I showed up for the appointment and went in alone. She was very cold. She agreed that I was pregnant and said, “You probably killed the baby by falling on him, come back in 3 months for a follow up.” I left the exam room in tears, vowing to find a better provider. Daddy was horrified. I went home and called my regular GP for an appointment the next day. On Wednesday, I went in to see her. She was disgusted by the way that United had treated me and vowed to find me good help, if I could just sit tight and wait. I agreed. An hour later she came back. She had found me an OB/GYN clinic in my network who would see me the very next day. I thanked her profusely. The next day I went to the new clinic. The kind doctor assured me that I was pregnant and that you had a strong heartbeat. I had never heard such a beautiful sound in my entire life. Ravi, you were alive and kicking. I was so proud of you. I was given a thick booklet on what to expect for the rest of my pregnancy, how to make follow up appointments every 4 weeks, and who to call if I thought anything was awry. They could not give me any painkillers for my ribs, but I did not care. I was pregnant! I returned home joyfully and decided to avoid the stairs for a while

Ravi, most women miss their period and pee on a pregnancy stick to find out if they are expecting. My period was never in the least reliable and I had to faint and fall down a flight of stairs to realize that something was up. You always did have a flair for the dramatic! The rest of the pregnancy was textbook simple, until 34 weeks when you decided to announce your early arrival. Once again, you did not refer to a calendar or anyone’s plans, you just came, but that is a blog for another day.

Last night, Daddy and I went to a state park to see the aurora. The Northern Lights were dim, but we saw them! I have been waiting almost 55 years to see them. There were also some beautiful clear stars, a herd of startled deer, and lots of coyotes singing the song of their people. I imagined you dancing in the stars and the aurora, free from your earthly bonds and this made me very happy. My dear, you are dancing with the starts with your Creator. You are free from all pain, fear, cancer, epilepsy. I love you to the moon and back. Mom.